Bachelorette: Season 10, Episode 6
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On tonight's episode of The Bachelorette, Andi took the guys on a romantic date in Italy... to take a lie detector test. While it might be a fun, random game to play with your friends or your significant other on a boring evening, it seemed inappropriate in this situation. When you're in a relationship with 8 men, and you constantly emphasize the importance of honesty, it sends a pretty big message that you don't practice what you preach.
I know this because I've personally experienced the beauty of honesty and truth in a relationship...
I know this because I've personally experienced the beauty of honesty and truth in a relationship...
The first time I met him, it felt like the room moved in slow motion. He was exactly the kind of guy I had always been looking for, and I knew I had to catch his attention. I knew I had to see him again. I had never felt like such an awkward flirter than when I wanted to impress him, although it had never been a problem for me before. It was hard to breathe, because his eyes struck right through me - one green, one blue. For the next several months, I dropped hints left and right, to no avail. He didn't give me a second glance.
Almost exactly a year from our first meeting, we ran into each other again, at a mutual friend's party. This time around, something just clicked. We went on our first date the very next day, and haven't stopped since. It didn't take long before we reflected back to our first meeting, and my failed attempts to capture his heart. And the reason behind his indifference was actually more heartfelt and genuine than I could have expected. That first night we met, he was single. He was not in a relationship. But there was another woman in his life that he was interested in, and that was enough to shut off his awareness of anything else around him. Despite my determined hints and flirting attempts, he was completely oblivious to anything besides this other girl. By the time we met again a year later, he had no other ties owning his attention.
Our first date was more than two and a half years ago. Now, I'm more than just some girl he might be interested in; I'm his girlfriend. And even in rocky moments of our relationship, I've never once doubted his loyalty to me or his honesty. He only has eyes for me, and I for him. While he might be a bit forgetful, he has never lied to me. And I know he never will.
Almost exactly a year from our first meeting, we ran into each other again, at a mutual friend's party. This time around, something just clicked. We went on our first date the very next day, and haven't stopped since. It didn't take long before we reflected back to our first meeting, and my failed attempts to capture his heart. And the reason behind his indifference was actually more heartfelt and genuine than I could have expected. That first night we met, he was single. He was not in a relationship. But there was another woman in his life that he was interested in, and that was enough to shut off his awareness of anything else around him. Despite my determined hints and flirting attempts, he was completely oblivious to anything besides this other girl. By the time we met again a year later, he had no other ties owning his attention.
Our first date was more than two and a half years ago. Now, I'm more than just some girl he might be interested in; I'm his girlfriend. And even in rocky moments of our relationship, I've never once doubted his loyalty to me or his honesty. He only has eyes for me, and I for him. While he might be a bit forgetful, he has never lied to me. And I know he never will.
A successful and healthy relationship isn't just built on honesty. It's built on MUTUAL trust. Not the kind of trust that you can prove with a lie detector test, but the kind of mutual trust that you would never question in the first place. The fact that Andi chose to give the men a lie detector test was... a disappointment. It meant that despite her repeated desire for honesty from the men, she resorted to pulling it out of them. The redeeming point in this episode was that she decided not to go through with reading the results. That action alone restored what respect the men might have otherwise lost with her. On the other hand, is this all just a game? While she might have that prosecutor instinct... these are your boyfriends, not your witnesses.
From one Andee to another Andi - Good luck on your journey. Remember: no one can completely fall for you until you allow yourself to completely fall for them. Don't make the mistake of allowing doubt into a growing romance. Let the truth shine on its own, through your actions.
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From one Andee to another Andi - Good luck on your journey. Remember: no one can completely fall for you until you allow yourself to completely fall for them. Don't make the mistake of allowing doubt into a growing romance. Let the truth shine on its own, through your actions.
#TheBachelorette
